Finger vibrator

Why this one

It sits over a fingertip, so nothing changes about how you touch each other — it only adds a hum to a hand that already knows where to go. It is the gentlest possible first toy for a couple, because there is never a third object in the bed.

What to look for

1. A stretchy silicone sleeve rather than a rigid ring, so it fits either of you.
2. The vibration in the pad of the fingertip, not back at the knuckle, or he feels it more than she does.
3. Light enough that you forget you are wearing it.